Who would have thought that water could get you into trouble?
Well, the people of Japan know that it can. Anyone who has swum too far from the shore knows that it can. Those who have ventured into the deep end of the pool, before learning how to swim, know that it can. My nephew, Hayden, now knows that it can.
My family and I were eating at a Chinese buffet (one of my favorite things to do), when Hayden became parched, asking for strawberry-flavored water.
- SIDE NOTE: Ever heard of flavoring your water? Apparently, water itself is not good enough for us these days, so we have to add something to it to make it “better”.
Well, Hayden wanted “better” water. And Hayden wanted “better” water – NOW! That is because Hayden is three and not very patient. He’s working on that. In fact, we’re all still working on that.
Hayden likes water. Hayden likes strawberries more than water, so he asked for his water to taste a bit more like a strawberry. Then, he waited…patiently, I might add. He received strawberry-flavored water, and then assumed (We all know where this is leading.) that the water he received did not have strawberry drops in it, because it had ice in it. Logical, right? To a kid, maybe. But he assumed incorrectly…and impatiently, I might add.
THE FACTS: My sister had poured water from her glass into Hayden’s sippy cup. Water which had ice in it. Then, she added the strawberry-flavored drops before giving the sippy cup back to him.
Sadly, Hayden assumed that all water with ice in it had no strawberry flavor. Why? You might ask. BECAUSE MOMMA DIDN’T RAISE NO FOOL! Hayden could see all of the adult glasses with clear water and ice in them…clearly.
So, Hayden nicely asked, “Momma, did you put strawberry-flavored drops into my water as I requested?” OF COURSE HE DIDN’T! He got a ‘tude with Mom and started growling at her, “No! NO! Me not like that!” (before even tasting the water, because he felt and heard the ice move around in his sippy cup). Momma sternly reminded him of his responsibility to act nicely, even when things weren’t going his way, telling him all the while that the strawberry-flavored drops were in his water. RESPONSE: Grumble, growl, objection, raised voice, loudly repeated phrase – “ME NOT LIKE THAT!”
Now, Hayden was causing a scene. And, I believe it is Rule #393 in The Mother’s Handbook of Awareness, which reads: ELIMINATE THE SCENE IMMEDIATELY AND BY WHATEVER MEANS NECESSARY! In this case – The Case of Utter Defiance, that means a spanking, which is in God’s Handbook of Awareness, commonly called The Holy Bible [Proverbs 23:13 – “Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die.”].
And that’s exactly what my sister did:
- She took him into a private area (careful not to embarrass him),
- She waited until she was calm from being disobeyed (no retaliation or anger), and
- She spanked him with The Rod™.*
- Because she loves him. [Proverbs 13:24 – “Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.”]
- And she’s trying to correct his future actions.
When Hayden came back from his spanking and with a very different demeanor than when he left, he promptly proclaimed with all sincerity, “Me sorry me do that…Not nice. Mean. [all the while, shaking his head and with a look of self-disgust on his face] Me get spanking. Me sorry me do that.”
We were quick to forgive him, because, truthfully, we’ve all behaved badly; and, if we’re honest with ourselves, we would freely admit that we could use a good spanking to correct our actions, too.
- Things aren’t always going to go my way, and I will be tempted to throw a temper tantrum…I WILL NOT.
- There will be times that I think I know the situation before ever looking at the facts, and I will be tempted to assume what I shouldn’t…I WILL NOT.
- Some circumstances will wear me down, and I will be tempted to be impatient with others…I WILL NOT.
- When my behavior becomes unacceptable, those who care for me will try to correct me, and I will be tempted to ignore them…I WILL NOT.
- When I am corrected, I will be tempted to harbor resentment or bitterness toward those helping me…I WILL NOT.
- When I injure others, I will be tempted to neglect apologizing and repairing the offense…I WILL NOT.
- When I am asked by God to forgive others, I will be tempted to hold a grudge…I WILL NOT.
- If we were frequently and lovingly corrected as adults, would we behave any better than we do right now?
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